“Men will come and go but your friends will always be there.”
I was discussing with Marliina the important things in life and how we prioritise them and she was saying how important friends and family are since men will come and go but friends will always be there for you.
This is so true without my friends I would have lost my mind these last few weeks. You have helped me keep busy, I have always had somewhere to go and something to do in the evenings and weekends. If I have needed to talk there has always been someone there to answer the phone.
When I did my priority list in September I put my partner as first priority, so would I change my list now when I’m single?
The answer is no I wouldn’t. Of course my partner has to come first, I don’t move in with my girlfriends (sorry you’re lovely, but no) and spending so much time together you need to be important in each others lives. Also he will be my confidant, the person I can tell anything and share everything that happens in my life. In other words my soulmate. Your partner is someone you are meant to spend the greater part of your life with, once your kids are grown up and flown the nest your partner is still supposed to be there, how could this person be anything other then your first priority? In sickness and in health, for better or for worse, until death do us part.
Who would I spend christmas with? My partner of course, if work allows I would always choose my partner before family and friends…ok not if we only had been dating for a few weeks
But what I mean is you HAVE TO prioritise each other if you want it to succeed. Obviously this doesn’t mean one person is always right and you always give in to the other. No a good relationship is where you can compromise, somtimes you do this and other times that and sometimes you meet in the middle.
Of course it doesn’t always work out but you still have to give it 100% everytime you are in a relationship if not obviously the relationship will fail as you never gave it a chance in the first place. If you are holding back because you were hurt in the past don’t, you have to take chances for a relationship to work.
But just because my partner comes before family and friends doesn’t make them less important. If any partner forced me to choose between him or my friends and family he would be history, anyone who forces you to choose is not worth your time.
If anyone choses work/career on the top spot then I think you are a bit sad or in a very bad relationship. I would never put my career in front of my personal happiness although I agree that work is important it is not everything. It is not wrong to focus on work, to educate yourself and work hard, what is wrong is always prioritising work before partners, family and friends. Obviously some are not so lucky to have this choice, some have to travel abroad legally or illegally to work in order to feed their families. We owe it to these people to spend time with our partners/family because that is what they would do if they had a choice.
Below is my original list and the comments I wrote, which I still stand by today;
- Partner
- Family
- Friends
- Hobbies/ Interests
- Work/Career
- “Have Fun”
- Training/ Exercise
- Party
- Money
- Shopping
Shopping is so unimportant to me, money as well. But hobbies/ interests is to have fun but also to train, I like to run, cycle, climb, camp, dive and that is both having fun, hobbies/ interests AND training. And also I like to do these thing with my partner and friends.
Please list them yourself in my comments or on your own blog.